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THREE STAGES OF A MAN'S LIFE - OH THE PITY OF IT

Well, a picture or in this case, three pictures, is worth a thousand words. Link

DO ALL WOMEN LIE, STEAL AND CHEAT?

Oh, you mean, you really didn't have a headache last night? Then why did you lie to me?

You're a Woman and all Women lie and it's perfectly okay and I should just get over it. And you steal and cheat as well.

Is all that true? This survey reveals a lot about women in that area. Link

THERE IS A SCIENTIFIC EXPLANATION WHY YOUR TEENAGER IS OUT OF THEIR F***ING MIND

Why sex, drugs and rock n roll? It's a brain thing. Your teenager's brain is growing or to put it another way, their brain, for a time, is immature. Big news. They don't get it. The it being consequences. They look at life very differently than you or I. They don't understand a thing you're saying, sometimes. It's as if you're talking under water. Gurgle, gurgle, gurgle. Best thing - Let as many things pass as you can. Things change and the insanity will pass. It's not pleasant living in a war zone. Detach with love. Make your boundries but pick your fights.

"A memo to parents of teenagers: Don't blame your angst-ridden Rebels Without a Cause as they dive into a summer of sleeping in and testing boundaries. Blame their brains.

Scientists used to believe that teenage brains were like adult brains. Now we know differently. New research shows the prefrontal cortex -- the area that controls judgment, organization, emotions -- is largely immature in a teenager's head. So when he or she forgets the list of chores you just told him or explodes when you ask her to turn down the music, there's actually a scientific explanation" Link

I'M ANGRY AND I'M GOING TO...WELL HERE ARE TEN THINGS TO DO

It's certainly okay to feel your anger. To have feelings and acknowledge them is a very healthy thing to do. You don't have to feel guilty or ashamed of your feelings. But it is what you do with those feelings, how you react to the person or situation that will define the moment.

Here are ten things you can do when you feel angry but you don't want to errupt like a volcano.

Managing Anger: Link

YOUR CHEATING HEART - TELL TALE SIGNS OF INFIDELITY AND A NEW LIE DETECTOR

Helen of Troy

Kish Kish brings a handy device to the field of investigation and infidelity. If you think someone is cheating on you, you can talk to them over skype (calling people via your computer), the lie detector, available as an add-on to your software, uses the first 10 seconds to assess the general stress through your computer.

"...With the use of KishKish Lie detector you can monitor in real-time the stress level of the person you talked with. This allows you to gage the level of stress and modify your questions in real time. You could also use our KishKish SAM VSA that allows you to record the call and analyze the stress level off-line."
More: KishKish (Via Julie B)

If that doesn't do the trick and you want hard evidence, there are services that can get you the dirt. Link: Advanced Surveillance Group (ASG)

Is he cheating? Many unsuspecting wives find out too late. Check out 21 tell tale categories.
Link: EveryDayBetterLiving

The Cheating Wife - A complete site for infidility info from spying tools to marriage counseling for both spouses.
Link: The Infidelity and Cheating Information Site

Cheating was not looked upon favorably in the 15th century.

Punishment of the Unfaithful Wives - 1505

Let's not get too suspicious when there's nothing really goin' on.

Suspicious Minds - Elvis Presley

And if you want to have a vicarious affair, there's always "Unfaithful" with Diane Lane, Richard Gere and Olivier Martinez

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TWENTY REASONS TO HAVE SEX WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT

There may be many reasons not to have sex. But here are twenty reasons why sex might be the cure all to every malady known to humankind - diet, health, disposition, happiness, depression, skin, pain. You just can't get away with, "I have a headache" It might cure that as well.

Sex: Link

RELATIONHSHIP LAND MINES AND HOW TO AVOID THEM

There are areas that all couples find troubling.

"In a relationship, petty disagreements and misunderstandings are unavoidable. Couples are predisposed to bickering and the longer they're together, the better they get at it.

While some couples can swear they've never raised their voices to one another or stormed off in the heat of the moment, more explosive and passionate arguments can be extremely cathartic – and sexy."

Making it work explores land mines in a relationship. Link

Differences of opinion are normal and healthy in adult relationships and learning to compromise is a skill required in many areas of life. Couples Communication: Link

TOXIC WIVES HAVE POISONED MANY A MARRIAGE AND GAINED MILLIONS

It's been classified in England as Toxic Wife Syndrome. Toxic Wives are young beautiful barracudas that go after rich older men.

They are wined, dined, wedded, designer covered, become pregnant, children nannified, divorced, recieve huge settlement (millions). Link: Telegraph.Co.UK

Do you remember this married couple?

Well, Donald - "Never made a bad deal in his life" Trump had this to say to Paul.

McCartney is an idiot...

Twice-divorced Trump, who married for the third time to model Melina Knauss last year, has criticised McCartney for allowing romance to cloud his judgment, insisting business should always come before love.

He says, “I know I sound like a broken record, but get a prenup. I don’t care how much you love your fiancée, it’s just idiotic to get married without one.

“Don’t believe me? Ask Paul McCartney what he thinks. I know he wishes he had one.”
McCartney and Mills separated in May and are currently in the process of getting a divorce.

Trump will guard the major part of his empire from his wife, but if they divorce, she will get her millions.

Yes, Donald she married you because of your caring, altruistic, lovable disposition. Your marriage was a deal, don't ever think it was about anything else.

IF WILD BABY ANIMALS OF DIFFERENT SPECIES CAN BECOME INSEPERABLE WHY CAN'T WE OF ONE SPECIES...?

Lessons can be learned from the wild orphaned animals of Indonesia - Maybe there's hope for warring nations and people of all nationalities, persuasions and skin color to get along.

A pair of month-old Sumatran tiger twins have become inseparable playmates with a set of young orangutans, an unthinkable match in their natural jungle habitat in Indonesia's tropical rainforests.
More: AP

From: Boing Boing

ARE YOU SAD OR ARE YOU DEPRESSED?

Are you really depressed or are you just sad? Tune in for a "Reality Check" as Life Coach and Author Chandra Alexander talks about the differences between clinical depression and sadness.

Depression is different than sadness. Depression results when you do not deal with your sadness.

Life is a mixture of both happy and sad; this is normal and natural.

We are taught sadness is "bad", so we end up being ashamed and stuffing our feelings.

It is appropriate to be sad because sometimes things are sad: people die, get sick, our hearts get broken.

Anti-depressants take away the anxiety but keep us numb. You must "feel" to get healthy.

Chandra's TV show Reality Check Click